tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post4958849667247414726..comments2023-12-19T10:26:58.846-06:00Comments on Life is RANTastic!: Hop, Skip and JumpThe Rock Chickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04653277401124290907noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-45198813723136067562008-06-15T18:55:00.000-05:002008-06-15T18:55:00.000-05:00I am glad that you said something to the therapist...I am glad that you said something to the therapist afterwards. I don't think you overreacted, but at least the therapist gave your daughter as a reason. That's a good thing.Jenny McBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11260376064122225845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-43468642837543901702008-06-14T10:45:00.000-05:002008-06-14T10:45:00.000-05:00I agree with you 100% that we should be allowed to...I agree with you 100% that we should be allowed to feel as proud of battling our mental illness as those who are battling cancer, diabetes or whatever other illnesses. I mean, my friends playfully tease me about my monthly electroshock treatments. Really, I have them. And really, they do!<BR/><BR/>That being said...unfortunately we are in the minority. So, I would give the doc the benefit of the doubt that she was trying to be respectful of YOUR comfort level and that by coming over to your table and telling you, she was acknowledging and respecting your desire for candor with regard to your daughter's illness. She could have just averted her eyes and slunk to the other side of the dining room which would have made you REALLY uncomfortable.<BR/><BR/>Especially with the food factor in your daughter's illness, it was probably for the best. And who can say how to best handle something like this?Dihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04653282356172573799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-30880490393878468972008-06-13T12:04:00.000-05:002008-06-13T12:04:00.000-05:00I guess her reasoning kind of makes sense... and m...I guess her reasoning kind of makes sense... and maybe she thought if she just moved without announcing it to you guys that you would be offended... still totally weird.Jessica Morrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12152327170331184368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-75225161649215552502008-06-13T09:15:00.000-05:002008-06-13T09:15:00.000-05:00I'm glad to hear that you addressed this with the ...I'm glad to hear that you addressed this with the therapist. Although she had good intentions, I agree that she shouldn't have made the announcement. To be fair, it's not always easy to know what to do or say in those types of situations.Malcolmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02065814455731328574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-86269406802676584892008-06-13T06:24:00.000-05:002008-06-13T06:24:00.000-05:00Thank you all for your input. I didn't think I was...Thank you all for your input. I didn't think I was overreacting, but there have been times when I know that I have :)<BR/><BR/>I did speak to the therapist and basically, she was concerned that her presence would have affected my daughter's eating during our dinner. She did not want my daughter to feel that she was being monitored or spied on and she said that if she had bumped into us in any other venue, she would not have moved. <BR/><BR/>I guess I understand it but I still think the whole big announcement about moving was out of line. Tough call, I guess.The Rock Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04653277401124290907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-54651113670747054982008-06-13T04:08:00.000-05:002008-06-13T04:08:00.000-05:00Hey RC,First of all you are not overreacting. I wo...Hey RC,<BR/><BR/>First of all you are not overreacting. I worked as a family and individual therapist for children in California and I lived in the same area that some of my clients lived in. We talked about this topic at work because it was bound to come up and in my case it did.<BR/><BR/>I was in the supermarket when I saw a girl I was currently working with. I only acknowledged a client if they spoke to me first and I left it up to them to explain (or not) who I was to the people accompanying them. If the client did not acknowledge me, I simply acted like I did not know them too. <BR/><BR/>I would never approach someone in a restaurant. Your daughter's therapist displayed unethical behavior and I would like to think it was poor judgment on her part because I would hate to think that she is that stupid.<BR/><BR/>On a personal note: often times young girls are too ashamed and embarrassed to seek help for eating disorders, which is probably the most common problem among adolescent girls. I commend your daughter's bravery and wish her the best of luck on the road to recovery.pjazzyparhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02270767809180700095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-9776821844725787702008-06-12T22:09:00.000-05:002008-06-12T22:09:00.000-05:00My vote is that you are NOT overreacting! What in...My vote is that you are NOT overreacting! What in the world was that therapist thinking? I'm outraged just reading your post. I'm not sure I would feel comfortable sending my daughter back to her. But, I think you should tell the therapist just what you told us. She needs to hear it. She made a stupid mistake. I'm so sorry that happened to y'all!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-12747905243114547162008-06-12T22:01:00.000-05:002008-06-12T22:01:00.000-05:00No, I don't think you are overreacting at all. You...No, I don't think you are overreacting at all. Your daughter's therapist totally mishandled the situation. It's ironic because the situation wasn't awkward until the therapist made it so.Malcolmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02065814455731328574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-75733319588449176632008-06-12T20:07:00.000-05:002008-06-12T20:07:00.000-05:00I have no clue... I'm floored! That is very odd.I have no clue... I'm floored! That is very odd.Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02046306355404937213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-32566769680959713102008-06-12T11:20:00.000-05:002008-06-12T11:20:00.000-05:00Not over reacting. Its up to you to set the tone ...Not over reacting. Its up to you to set the tone and the therapist should follow. My preference would have been for everyone to ignore each other. I had trauma when my therapist flagged me down in a mall. Now mind you I was much younger then, but I just did not feel comfortable. I think it was that I had a problem with that therapist period. <BR/><BR/>But later experiences taught me that I set the lead, I wave they wave, I want to talk, they will talk. <BR/><BR/>BUT what she did was completely out of line and rude. Why come over and announce that? I think you should find out how your daughter feels about it staying with her. As you said, the therapist made the relationship seem shameful. Which is as far from the truth as you can get.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28185298.post-34217786964371353602008-06-12T10:42:00.000-05:002008-06-12T10:42:00.000-05:00Well, given the nature of your daughter's therapy,...Well, given the nature of your daughter's therapy, I could see how the situation could be awkward, but coming to your table and telling you she was moving tables would only make it worse.<BR/><BR/>But the whole situation reminds me of the restaurant scene from <A HREF="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0101698/" REL="nofollow">Defending Your Life</A>. Albert Brooks' character is embarrassed and wants to leave when he sees his "prosecutor" at a nearby table. Meryl Streep's character doesn't help the situation. Ah, I love that movie.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com